Ewailer
IPA email support group
What is Ewailer?
How to join
Moderators
Guidelines
Technical Information and Help
What
is Ewailer?
The IPA is about community. An "online community" is a valuable
resource for people, especially those that are far away or isolated
in their daily lives. Ewailer is an email discussion group for IPA
members. It exists in order that we can support one another, connect,
share, grow, feel, and heal in a safe and caring environment, no
matter where we are in the world.
Ewailer is an alias for a large group of e-mail addresses. When
you send an e-mail to the group, it automatically goes to everyone
on the Ewailer list. The group is hosted by Yahoo.
Group members can log on to the Yahoo site and create a personal
profile, post photos, and view other member profiles. More information
on this is included in the technical
information section below.
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How
to join
If you are an IPA member and you would like to join the Ewailer
group, contact ewailer@primals.org
.
If you are not an IPA member, and you would like to be part of
our email support group, go to our membership
page for information about membership. Contact information and
a printable Membership Application form is available there. When
you apply, indicate that you would like to be a part of Ewailer. We
look forward to having you with us!
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Ewailer
moderators
Ewailer is a moderated discussion group. The following IPA members are currently acting as moderators: Dave Gorsky and Julie Elaison
Feel free to contact him at the address below if you have questions
or concerns about the list or postings on the list.
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Ewailer
guidelines
Ewailer is a very supportive, self-regulating group. The following
guidelines exist to help with conflicts that occasionally arise.
Please read them.
These guidelines exist to maintain safe process and communications.
Feel free to contact the moderators at any time if you have questions
or concerns about the list or postings on the list.
Please read the guidelines below. These guidelines exist to maintain
safe process and communications. Feel free to contact the moderators
at any time if you have questions or concerns about the list or
postings on the list.
1. GENERAL NOTES AND GUIDELINES
1.1 This is a discussion forum only. The opinions and views posted
on this list are not necessarily those of the IPA. Therapy is not
provided on this list.
1.2 All email posted to this list is CONFIDENTIAL. Do not copy,
forward, or otherwise distribute emails without the permission of
the sender.
1.3 It is suggested that members clearly mark the SUBJECT line
of each email in order to indicate the content of your post, such
as CHAT, HUMOR, ANNOUNCEMENT, HELP!, THEORY, SUPPORT, etc. (Note
that some spam filters block e-mail lacking a subject line.)
1.4 If an email discussion becomes a lengthy, off-topic discussion
between a small number of people and has no relevance to the group,
please be considerate of the group and take your discussion off-list
(that is, address your reply to only those people involved in the
discussion).
1.5 Keep in mind that when you hit "reply," your message will
be sent to the entire group, not just to the person who sent the
original email. If you would like to reply to that person individually,
you will have to remove the group name from the "to" line and add
the individual email address.
1.6 Attachments cannot be sent to Ewailer.
2. SAFE GROUP PROCESS THEORY
2.1 A sense of safety is of paramount importance for healthy primal
process and communication.
2.2 Primal process occurs when we stop acting out to the best
of our ability and feel our own pain - when we own our triggers.
2.3 Acting out is characterized by avoiding our feelings and attacking,
blaming, "dumping", criticizing, judging, shaming, insulting, unsolicited
advising, patronizing, projecting, or using indirect contempt such
as sarcasm, condescension, and ridicule.
2.4 Safety can arise when we are not exposed to such act-outs,
or that when these act-outs inadvertently happen, we recognize them
as act-outs in a climate of mutual caring and understanding.
2.5 Safety is increased when members are heard and supported in
the expression of their feeling issues, which are valid as their
truth.
3. SAFE GROUP PROCESS GUIDELINES
3.1 Speak of your own feelings, and feeling process - your truth.
3.2 Accept others and their process as they are.
3.3 If you wish to comment on another's process, be sure to indicate
that these are your perceptions/views/projections.
3.4 If someone comments on your process, you have the right to
ask them to stop.
3.5 Feeling supported is feeling heard - not being judged, analyzed,
or advised.
3.6 If you feel "dumped on," reply with YOUR feeling, owning your
trigger as best you can.
3.7 If you are called on for "dumping," look at YOUR feeling,
and respond with YOUR feeling as best you can.
4. SAFE CONFLICT RESOLUTION GUIDELINES
4.1 The group is expected to be self-regulating, and members are
encouraged to resolve their own conflicts using the guidelines stated
above.
4.2 Members are expected to take responsibility for their role
in a conflict.
4.3 Members who need assistance in a conflict are free to ask
for moderator assistance.
4.4 Moderators have the right to intervene in a conflict if it
is perceived as compromising group and/or individual safety.
4.5 If the conflict persists, moderators have the right to insist
that all involved members join them in a separate conflict resolution
group until the conflict is resolved.
4.6 When conflicts arise on IPA Ewailer that cannot be resolved by
the members and the moderators, the persons involved have the right
to consult the Member Advocate, the Council of Elders, or the IPA
Board.
4.7 Any member who repeatedly endangers individual or group safety
by acting out on other members may be placed on moderated status
or asked to leave the group. On moderated status, a member's email
is sent first to the moderators before it is released to the group.
Moderated status remains until the conflict is resolved to the degree
that the person on moderated status can post according to the Safe
Group Process Guidelines.
* These guidelines were adapted from the Primal Support Group
(PSG) Safe Process Guidelines.
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Technical
information and Help
Click here for tips
on Ewailer, Email, and YahooGroups. For more help with YahooGroups,
try the help page on the Yahoo site: http://help.yahoo.com/help/groups/
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